July 14, 2014

“All problems are boring…until they’re your own.”
Red, Orange Is The New Black

For the friend who just moved away from all of us here in LA to pursue a master’s degree.

To the friend whose dealing with his mom being ill, or a grandmother passing away, or a niece being born and not being able to afford a flight to be there in person yet.

To the friends who had a little boy and came home from the hospital without a hitch.

To the friends who spent 2 weeks in the hospital while their baby girl fought off an illness.

To the friend planning her wedding, overwhelmed and frustrated, who is mad at herself it doesn’t feel like an an easier, happier time.

To the friend who lost their pet.

To the friend in the long distance relationship.

To the friend who lost her mom suddenly when she was 19.

To the friend who couldn’t find a job for 5 months despite 10 interviews.

To the friend that thought she found her dream job, and now it’s sucking really bad.

To the friend who accepted a job that is wrong for them because they have to pay the bills.

To the friend who moved to a new country.

To the friend who can’t conceive.

To the friend who found herself pregnant on (happy) accident.

To the friend who can’t quit smoking.

To the friend who can’t stop drinking.

To the friend who did stop drinking… and chooses to continue to not drink one day at a time.

To the friend who tells us they’re OK but we know otherwise.

To the friend who moved in with her boyfriend, and while it’s awesome, she misses having her own space.

To the friend who adopted a pet and is realizing it’s a lot more work then they thought.

To the friend who was was dumped.

To the friend who is home alone all day with her baby boy, loving him and going crazy from boredom.

To the friend who is eating healthy, counting calories and working out and can’t seem to lose “the weight”.

To the friend whose wedding proposal was turned down.

To the friend whose start-up hasn’t gotten funded yet.

To the friend who has no vacation time at work.

To the friend who’s waiting for the ring.

To everyone, all of us, who are scared to share problems and vulnerabilities with anyone because we all try so hard to look like we have our shit together and we think no one wants to hear it. That no one cares.

I’m here to tell you, if just for this one brief moment while you read my words –
I see you. I see you and you’re doing it. You’re kicking ass.

You’re waking up. You’re going through the day. Even if this feels impossible, even if it feels like life is damaged, I am here to say that, we’re all messed up in some way. We’re all carrying some burden and that’s OK. It’s life. We’re all doing the best we can. Really. Even you. I know it. You’re doing the best you can with what you have.

And, as one of my favorite quotes says “we’re all just walking each other home”.

I’m looking out for you. And I’m thankful you’re looking out for me. Happy Monday xo

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  • Reply reneewads July 14, 2014 at 3:30 pm

    Reblogged this on Attention To Balance and commented:
    A great post by my sister-in-law. Take the time to read!

    Vulnerability is not something that comes easy to anyone. Being strong is something I’ve always done. I take care of others and give them support. I have my shit together 99% of the time and rarely share my burdens with anyone other than my boyfriend. That’s something I’m trying to work on. It’s okay to unload and share your hardships with your best friends and your family and let them aid you in carrying on.

    I’ve been going through a bit of a depression the last couple days, and didn’t realize how hard I’ve been fighting to appear “okay” until I read this and cried in my cereal this morning…..DAMN YOU JUSTINE! Thanks for looking out. Love you sis <3

    And to pass it on, I'm looking out for all you as well.


    • Reply debibro July 16, 2014 at 4:19 pm

      Love you. Xoxo

      • Reply justine July 17, 2014 at 9:07 pm

        Love you. Thanks for sharing my stuff xo

  • Reply songbirdinthecity July 15, 2014 at 12:04 am

    One of these describes me. I needed this today! Thank you. 🙂

    • Reply justine July 15, 2014 at 6:57 pm

      YAY! Haha. Curious which one 😉 Hope we get to hang in real like soon.

  • Reply Nina July 16, 2014 at 1:05 am

    Thank you gentle hearted badass Mo Fo (as Meredith Winn’s shirt says)

    • Reply justine July 17, 2014 at 9:06 pm

      Oh gosh – love that shirt. Thanks Nina. Chat soon!

  • Reply debibro July 16, 2014 at 4:19 pm

    Reblogged this on debibro's Blog and commented:
    Great blog! Hope my friends take a second to read. I forget that people out there really care, I have more days then I care to admit, where I want to scream a few choice words from my window. The other times I want to cry alone (because of my ugly “cry face”…lol. Sometimes I just want to take off a yr. from work, family and all the demands… to find “me” again. Either way….loved the message of this blog. Xoxo

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